What if I told you that all around you, right now, men and women were meeting, starting to date, and creating life-changing relationships using what I call the “4 Secret Languages Of Attraction”… secret, often invisible ways of communicating that YOU must learn and understand before you can possibly attract and keep the right man.
This Special Report is dedicated to making sure that you CAN recognize and “speak” these Secret Languages, too – and therefore gain a deep and solid knowledge of how attraction REALLY works with a man.
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Secret Language #1: Body Language
Truth is, sometimes the words you say to a man don’t matter much. What DOES matter is HOW you say them with both your voice and your body language.
Let me give you a clear and simple example to show you what I mean here…
If I say, “I don’t like you very much,” and I have a serious and tense look on my face… the person I say it to will not only hear that I don’t actually like them, but they will have a fairly predictable EMOTIONAL RESPONSE to this – they’ll feel upset or hurt and probably not like me very much either.
But if I say, “I don’t like you very much,” and I am looking them in the eyes and I have a casual attitude and a smile on my face, then the EMOTIONAL RESPONSE I’ll get will be very different – the person is going to FEEL like I not only like them, but they’ll probably feel like I’m fun for them to be around and that they feel good in my presence.
So try mixing sarcastic or seemingly negative words with very positive and playful body language. A man, even though he isn’t “consciously” speaking this language with you, will INSTANTLY pick up on what’s going on and engage you in playful conversation.
Practice confident, attractive body language in this way, and you’ll realize that you can say ALMOST ANYTHING to a man and he’ll start to FEEL ATTRACTION – and here’s what you should focus on while doing it:
- Your Posture
- Eye Contact
- Your Tone Of Voice
Posture is one of the clues men use to determine instantly what kind of woman you are, what you think of yourself, and whether or not to feel ATTRACTION for you.
So focus on straightening and lengthening your body from your waist to your shoulders as though they are gently pulling apart from each other with your hips moving down and your shoulder moving up and back. Hold your head up and back, pull your shoulders back, and make sure to arch your back.
Generally hold yourself like you’re the most fabulous and fascinating person you’ve ever seen or heard of… and you will start to become it and attract men who believe it about you.
I believe that, unconsciously, we humans use our eye contact for several purposes… to establish our own personal “status,” to get attention, and to show interest. Therefore, if you use the wrong type of eye contact in a situation, you’ll probably wind up with a result that you didn’t want.
To establish the right kind of message, you have to learn to hold eye contact for LONGER than the person you are connecting with. This sounds simple, but it is unbelievably powerful and effective when you actually do it with people around you.
If you see a man that you find attractive, and he looks back at you, DON’T LOOK AWAY. Most women become self-conscious and look away as soon as a man notices them looking. This is a HUGE mistake.
Of course, this also works if you’re already in a relationship with a man. Simply start looking at him in the eyes for longer and start to notice how and when he looks at you… and then make sure to hold your eye contact with him longer than he holds it with you. The results will amaze you.
Many women don’t realize that they speak with weak, squeaky voices or speak so quickly that they convey the message, “I’m not confident… I have no self-esteem.” This turns men off BIG TIME, so take some time to learn to slow down your delivery and concentrate on how you express yourself verbally. Learn how to speak with a deeper voice and how to articulate every word better.
When it’s obvious that you think and know that what you’re saying is important and significant, it’s no surprise that a man will follow your lead and think so too.
Secret Language #2: Flirting / Sexual Chemistry
When people say “there’s chemistry” between people, what they’re really saying (but don’t know it…) is that both people are flirting and intrigued with one another.
Ironically, to have chemistry with a man, you do need to flirt with him, and sometimes do it first before he flirts with you. So don’t be afraid to get things started. Initiating is never a mistake, as long as you remember what you’re doing, how the language of attraction works, and you don’t end up trying “too hard” for his attention.
Flirting is obvious to some people, while others have no idea what it really is or how to do it themselves. In basic terms, here are some simple examples of “flirty” behavior:
- Teasing and sarcasm
- Being a little too serious for the situation, but joking underneath
- Breaking the “socially-acceptable” limits on physical space
- Interpreting communication through a sexual subtext or making sexual/sensual innuendo
These are some of the most common forms of flirting. I don’t mean that every time someone acts in one of these manners they’re necessarily flirting… it’s just that when someone does flirt, these are the likely ways they do it.
Basically, flirting provides new stimuli instead of the expected ones, and by doing so it accomplishes its goal of getting attention. When the other person can do the same back, there’s a mutual feedback loop of “heightened interest”… and we call this “chemistry.”
You see, a man notices someone that can make him feel differently. Feeling both good and bad is much more rewarding than FEELING NOTHING, which is what he normally feels in reaction to the boring and meaningless conversation he normally receives from most women – usually conversation that is more about other people than about HIM.
Being unpredictable makes you more fun and interesting to be around. Being unusual in a flirtatious way typically increases attraction. When you know how to flirt, you tune in to a frequency in a man’s mind and cause him to go into a very special kind of emotional state.
Take my word for it… once you learn how to flirt you’ll start to have amazing interactions with men everywhere – on the train, at the grocery store, on the street – and amazing things will start to happen.
Secret Language #3: Self-Confidence
There are lots of ways to “secretly” show your self-confidence in every communication you make. All the forms of flirting we’ve already discussed do this, but there are other forms of secret communication that challenge normal expectations, including:
- Dry humor
- Unflappability
- Indifference
- Seriousness
- Mystery
- Challenge
When you intentionally behave in these self-confident ways (and don’t avoid them because you’re afraid a man won’t like you) you use a “hidden language” to communicate something even MORE powerful… that YOU are in control.
Self-confidence brings amazing results. This means “having your act together” at almost all times unless it’s important or clearly justified. And even then there’s a way to talk and get your point across without having to get upset with a man.
Also, most women cannot keep their composure when a man starts pushing their buttons. Being upset or angry is unpleasant to be around and reveals insecurity in you. See through men. Charm and disarm them. Enjoy them. Always take the “I don’t need you, but I want you” attitude of zero-clinginess.
This is a CONFIDENT philosophy that attracts the quality man you deserve and filters the negative ones you wouldn’t want anyway. (Codependence attracts codependence.)
Finally, have the confidence to disconnect from him once in a while before he needs to take time for himself. And make sure you let him know that you’re confident and comfortable with the topic of sex, but that you don’t NEED it (or a relationship) with him.
In other words… show your confidence by making a man want or wonder what’s next more than you do!
Secret Language #4: Tension & Anticipation
The kind of “tension” I’m talking about here is the feeling inside that makes you sit on the edge of your seat waiting for something to happen… and anticipation is that feeling in your chest that you get when you know something exciting could happen at any minute.
If you can learn how to take control of these feelings in a man and help him experience them as a result of being around you, then you will DRAMATICALLY increase his interest. Period.
The message that you want to send to him is, “I know that I could make a move right now, but I CHOOSE not to on my own terms. I’m going to keep you guessing… make no mistake about it, I’M IN CONTROL OF MYSELF here, even though I love this and I’m staying.”
In short, there’s a way to get a whole lot more “bang for your buck” with the things you’re already doing… if you just start to think about doing them in new ways, and at different and less predictable times. Here are three easy ways that you can do this:
1. Take Two Steps Forward, One Step Back
We don’t realize how much we want the things we have… until we lose them, that is. So how about making someone want something new by giving it to them… and then taking it away?
When most people hear “Take Two Steps Forward and One Back,” they think a setback that has to be overcome before proceeding further. But what I’m talking about is DELIBERATELY stopping when things are WORKING in order to ACCELERATE the process.
Here it is in a nutshell: learn how to take two steps forward and one step back, and your man will be wanting and coming back for more.
2. Play Hard to Get
Playing hard to get is a classic pattern of behavior that works for a number of reasons… yet some women don’t like the idea because it seems manipulative. It seems insincere. It seems like a game.
Well guess what? Men WANT YOU TO BE INTERESTING. Men want adventure and challenge. It’s fun for them. In fact, this is pretty much all they do when left alone with their friends – they find ways to compete, accomplish things and generally engage in “risk vs. reward” behavior.
Being “hard to get” automatically implies your own scarcity, so it increases the rarity factor enhancing your attraction. Once you’ve primed the pump and caused a splash of interest, it’s all over for him. You can take a tiny spark of interest, play hard to get, and use it to build that small attention into a whirlwind of attraction.
3. Give Him the Gift of Missing You
Once you start spending time together, make sure you leave him alone from time to time. This concept can be as simple as walking away from him in a store for a few minutes. It could be as major as not being available on a night you normally hang out with him.
In other words, attraction requires space. It grows and thrives in the “presence of absence.”
A Final Message
As I’ve watched men and women use these 4 “secret languages,” I’ve seen first-hand how powerfully they work.
I also know that if you’ve never used them before, it can feel like a challenge to get started – but I want you to try because I believe that it will dramatically increase your success with men and relationships.
Take time to learn and master the “4 Secret Languages of Attraction,” and you’ll become the kind of woman who can make ANY man feel ATTRACTION for you naturally and effortlessly, I guarantee it.
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